Olga Namer: A modern-day Mrs. Maisel

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Olga Namer grew up in a Syrian Jewish Orthodox community and got married at the age of 18. Two years later, she was divorced and heartbroken. That could have been the end of her story. Instead, she turned tragedy into opportunity, pursuing a career in comedy and using her act to process her breakup. In this episode, Olga opens up to our hosts about being caught between comedy and community, poking fun at Zohran Mamdani, and relationship advice.

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Noam

Coming up, on Wondering Jews…

Mijal

I’m very, very curious about you performing in front of Mamdani 

Olga

I said I’m a Syrian Jew, so at least I know mamdani likes half of me.

Mijal

I think that’s pretty good.

Mijal

Hi everyone. Welcome to Wondering Jews. We’re here continuing our conversations in New York City talking about identity being true to ourselves. And we’re super excited to have actress and comedian Olga Namer. welcome.

Olga

Thank you. Thank you for having me.

Mijal

So, Olga, I know you’re going to tell us all about your work as a standup, but tell us a little bit about your your upbringing. You’ve had an upbringing that’s a little bit not so typical for someone who’s doing comedy. Oh, yeah.

Olga

I was like, and yes, I was. I’m a Syrian Jew. I guess, and I grew up somewhat religious. I went to yeshiva.

Mijal

You you went to a yeshiva with my husband. I’m just putting it out here.

Olga

Right. That’s I was like, yes, I want to teach you with her husband. What class was he? And I don’t know.

Mijal

Were you with him throughout?

Olga

I don’t know, I switched around classes. I was like, I’m saying, yeshiva, Flatbush.

Mijal

Proud graduates. Did you go to the ten year reunion they had? Because I accompanied them to that one.

Noam

Do you think you graduated high school or is that like a secret?

Olga

Oh, I don’t.

Noam

You know.

Olga

It’s a secret now. I didn’t even think of that. But now I’m not going to say. Yeah, I graduated when her husband graduated.

Mijal

So riddle. Which actually done.

Mijal

Okay. So. So you want to. Flatbush grew up in the Sephardic Syrian kind of universe?

Olga

Yes, yes. And I don’t know why is it. Yeah. I guess it’s different for comedians because I was like, it’s not it’s not a different upbringing for a lot of Jews. Or is it? Would you say it’s different?

Mijal

I think that it’s pretty unique. As someone who studied the Syrian community. Yeah, it’s a pretty unique upbringing compared to like, other Ashkenazi or even other Sephardic communities.

Olga

Really.

Mijal

You don’t you haven’t experienced that.

Olga

I don’t know, I think everybody has their own, their own. Like like if I go to someone who’s Ashkenazi, they have their own things that are different.

Mijal

I think the tight knit ness, oh, that and the way that everyone lives, like in one neighborhood with people whose grandparents lived in the same neighborhood. Yeah, that’s pretty unique.

Olga

Oh, but what about. Yeah. That’s true. That’s right. Yeah. Because like I always say, I guess my sister’s kids like. Or they’re like, they already know where they’re going to go to school. And like, my brother just had a baby and she’s.

Mijal

Mabruk.

Olga

Thank you. And the second.

Noam

Half translate that. That means mazel tov. Yes. Which means congrats.

Olga

Yes. So thank you. Exactly. So already she signed up the baby for camp. Right.

Mijal

Like it’s intense.

Olga

She’s on a wait list. You can come.

Mijal

David. Yes, yes.

Olga

I’m like. What? Like the baby. She said I signed her up when I was. They don’t I don’t know, she’s like right in the hospital. Like, let’s put her. She gave birth and she’s like, put her on the waitlist. Yeah, exactly.

Mijal

It’s a thing.

Noam

It’s a thing.

Mijal

It’s not just there’s more than one camp, but there is not that many slots. So everybody wants to get in from the beginning. So people sign up really early. There’s like a lot of.

Noam

Like, pressure.

Mijal

It’s big I don’t know.

Noam

Are we giving them a lot of pressure?

Olga

I mean.

Mijal

I don’t know if they need our press with the waitlist from the hospital room now, but no.

Olga

One’s gonna know the tricks.

Mijal

But. So you grew up in this very tight knit community where everyone’s. A lot of people are following a certain path that was laid out for them.

Olga

Yeah. Yes, yes. Maybe it changed a little or. You don’t think so?

Noam

Wait, wait. Go tell Mijal’s academic year. But you’re the. You’re you. You lived it in a certain way, or you live in a certain way. Yeah. Do you agree with me?

Olga

Like, no, I do, I do, but I feel like now it’s a little different. Like, I, I feel like with social media, I changed.

Noam

Syrian community. Yeah. Like.

Olga

People are more, you know, I guess.

Noam

What was it and what did it change to?

Olga

So I was just talking about this in my cousin. So in my, in my grade, I guess all the girls, a lot of them were married by 20, like really 20 I think if that. And that was late.

Mijal

So that’s definitely not the case today.

Olga

Today it changed.

Mijal

People get married later, they go to college. They do all kinds of things.

Olga

I feel like social media, first of all, I feel like it gives. They could see what’s going on outside more because it used to be very I didn’t know, I didn’t, we weren’t seeing anybody like it was just everyone in my like, school. I didn’t know what was going on in the outside world, really, as much as.

Noam

Even though you’re like, because a modern Orthodox world, are you still it was still like, I.

Olga

I guess like I went to. Yeah. Because you went you go to camp, you go to I went to the center on Sundays, the community center.

Mijal

It’s actually around the corner from where I live right now. No, no. In Brooklyn, it’s like literally around the corner.

Noam

From you call it the center. You went to the center.

Mijal

The sad called the center. Yeah. Yeah.

Noam

Okay.

Olga

And then we went to. Yeah. I mean, I didn’t have cable, I have.

Noam

I have cable growing up to do you know. Wow. That’s very unique. That’s not a cable. That is. Yeah. It’s not having cable. I was the only kid in my school.

Mijal

Oh, your family was, like, very religious. No cable?

Olga

No, I think they were cheap.

Mijal

Oh, no.

Olga

In the summer we had cable.

Mijal

So in the summer they paid summer.

Olga

We got to, like, watch and like, I got to watch like MTV, like the music. I used to love the.

Noam

The music videos.

Olga

On it. Yeah. That and then. So yeah, it’s like, where would I be seeing these? This. I went to the city with my parents maybe, I don’t know one. Not a lot. So where would I be seeing it.

Mijal

Right.

Olga

And make sense.

Mijal

Yeah. And in some way like in your in your standup routines, you speak about like can I call it like a traumatizing early marriage that kind of like change or can I say that how should I call it trauma? Well, tell us about it. Okay.

Olga

No, I just got married very young, which was not. It was that wasn’t. That was normal.

Mijal

You were 17.

Olga

Yeah, well, really 18, I was 18.

Noam

So you were just.

Olga

17 in my act. Because it’s funnier. But,

Noam

I graduated high school or.

Olga

No, I graduated high school. I met him when I was in high school. But the problem was, is that he was so much older than me and he wasn’t religious. My dad didn’t like that.

Noam

He was.

Olga

18 years older.

Noam

That’s a lot older.

Olga

That’s. That’s why my joke’s like: “I was 17. He was 18… years older than me.” Yeah. So I say that,

Noam

That’s pretty wild.

Olga

Yeah. But when I got married, like one of my best friends at the same, she was getting married three days later. My other friend was getting married a month later. Like, it was very, like, in the norm, I guess maybe it was like a little early, but not really like when I. When I was in high school, there was a girl who got engaged and like, that was a thing because she had an engagement party.

Olga

She didn’t invite everyone to it. And the principles were like.

Noam

Principles.

Olga

Are not invite. Now they have a rule. You can’t wear an engagement party, an engagement ring to school.

Mijal

Yeah. But it’s.

Noam

I have a joke about this. I don’t, it’s, from your father. Its first comes to engage. Yes, yes. Then comes to the marriage ring. Then comes the suffering.

Mijal

Yes.

Olga

The wedding ring.

Noam

Oh, I got it wrong. See, that’s why I don’t tell jokes.

Olga

No, no no, no. But he did tell me that.

Mijal

Yes, I got it, I got it. I mean.

Noam

The engagement ring, the wider ring of the suffering. Yeah. You should never talk about.

Mijal

Yeah.

Olga

It’s not that. It’s okay. It’s not that I did it yesterday. They didn’t like it.

Noam

Oh, you. You tried that one out.

Olga

Yeah. I was trying to fill time because I had to do a long time on stage and I’m like, all right, let me. They wrote older Jews. I’m like, maybe they like this.

Mijal

I think, were they Syrian Jews.

Olga

With dirty jokes? And I’m like, let me tell you this one. Right? And yeah, they were well.

Mijal

I.

Noam

Know it’s Catskills.

Mijal

Yeah. I don’t know, maybe she found like.

Noam

A.

Mijal

No, they’re in new Jersey.

Olga

They’re in deal, you know.

Mijal

Or is this about me? About you? Deal is wonderful. It’s the best place in the world.

Olga

Really?

Mijal

No, the deal is a good place. It’s just hard to, like, commute to the city if you’re working. Woman. Oh, yeah.

Olga

But I know. Well.

Mijal

It’s a big community. Yes. Doesn’t mean I want to drive my car from the. But but but enough about me, Olga. Know so, so. And then like you’re now ex-husband.

Mijal

Is that what kind of like, puts you in a path that is a little bit different than the rest of the community?

Olga

I think? No, I think just getting divorced because it made me see things differently.

Mijal

What do you mean?

Olga

Maybe I was brought up, like, to live or be a certain thing and then, like, blue, like, things didn’t go the way that I thought, and it kind of like blue, like, not everything was like. And this is going to be like this, and that’s going to be like that.

Olga

And it just changed course. So then it was like more like, well, I don’t want to just be someone’s wife, like, I want to do something else type of thing, I don’t know.

Mijal

Did that feel for you like you had to then like like you grew up in this community, this family, and then you had to, like, make a choice. Do I want to stay or do I want to become something else?

Olga

No, no, no, it was never like that. I thought I would just get married again, but I didn’t really like anybody. And I think because I was like I did because I was with my ex and I mean, I like I obviously loved him, I married him, but then it was like it was more I didn’t want to live a life that I could just see everything that’s happening.

Olga

Does that make sense? And if I was like, even though we did, things did happen. I still felt like I wanted more. I didn’t know what I wanted, but I didn’t want to be just like living this, the just the life that was like, set. Out to do.

Mijal

You know, this?

Olga

You know, I had to.

Mijal

There’s a woman. I don’t know if you ever met her called Diane. She grew up in the community. Eventually she became a rabbi, and she wrote this essay about the moment in which she had to decide if she wanted to do this or not, until her parents. And she’s. Sitting by. Yeah. And she’s sitting at this, like, restaurant with them.

Mijal

And the words that she uses is like, I had this script in front of me, and I have to, like, decide right now my tearing the script apart and trying something that hasn’t been kind of laid out.

Noam

What I’m trying to figure out from Olga is, what’s the script that was being torn in becoming a stand up comedian? Is it because it’s so different from how?

Olga

No, I don’t know how I did that. I never want it to be standing up. I just wanted to act.

Noam

Were you the funny kid growing up? Always.

Olga

Well, my cousin last week told me I’m not funny at all. She’s like, nobody would say that. Funny. That’s what she’s like. But I was like, I don’t know, like, I mean, in the yearbook, everyone wrote to me. It was just so weird. I did a podcast. This guy is like, “you have to bring in your yearbook and read the letters that people wrote you.”

Olga

Everybody wrote: Oh, you’re so funny. Keep doing what you do. I forgot, I forgot that I was funny, like, or I’m not funny. I forgot that I was like, because I wouldn’t. I don’t know if I’m funny now, but I wouldn’t. I forgot that I was that person. And then kind of when I got married and then divorced, like I lost myself for, for a little bit and then, I don’t know, I did stand up and it’s like I came back to what I was and like, you realize.

Olga

Yeah.

Mijal

So, you know, we have this we’re talking here about, like you, your life. We’re thinking about identity. Yeah. How do you think about what it means to stay true to yourself while navigating different worlds and, like, torn scripts and new opportunities?

Olga

And that is a very good question. I don’t know, that’s the thing. I think I do it like, I guess it’s really one thing at a time, right? Like every situation or thing at a time. And it’s like, I feel like. And maybe in the beginning with stand up, a lot of it was like, well, first I had like a certain certain jokes that I wanted to say.

Olga

Then when I was doing more different rooms, I guess I went a little bit like I was just like, oh. I’ll be dirty.

Noam

You do this voice. What’s that voice? I don’t know, it’s.

Mijal

It’s like an extreme version of Brooklyn. Syrian.

Olga

Is that what it is? Yeah. It is. Yeah. Because everybody thinks I like oh, you do that on. I’m like, no, I don’t know.

Mijal

I think it’s like really leaning into the Brooklyn Syrian thing.

Noam

But you do okay.

Olga

Is that what I’m doing when I think that like, I. Just oh, probably I was like, maybe like this voice of, like, annoying or like. Yeah, like, I don’t know why I do that. There’s something it comes out for some reason. It’s more like, you have my father. Like, if I’m imitating someone, maybe I have. I do, I don’t know, I don’t know why I do that, but it randomly come out.

Noam

It goes in.

Olga

Your head.

Mijal

So your alter ego maybe.

Olga

So I was just like. So then I was doing other rooms and was like. So then I started just, I guess I was writing just for like, oh, well, if people like because I don’t the things I say on stage, like, let’s say they’re dirty, it’s like like very like dirty humor or whatever. It’s very I’m like kind of removed from him, just like, oh, but it gets a laugh like that.

Olga

Like, I want to say that because that I don’t think. I mean, if I thought about myself like when I was in high school or elementary school like that, I was going to be on stage talking about like, you know, I say blowjobs. I’d be like, what the hell are you talking about?

Noam

Talking about sexual things is you’re like, what? How did that happen?

Olga

Yeah, I think it was like, so. So I remember just like growing up, like, obviously I was like, I was very I am like, I’m not the things that I say on stage, but I remember that people were so just mean and like judgmental, like, oh, this if a girl like, made out with someone like, she’s a whore, you know, and then it ruins the person’s reputation and then they can’t get married and it just becomes like a whole thing.

Olga

And it’s like I always thought, like the double standard, isn’t it? I was just like. So then I thought, like, well, what if I just. It kind of like, well, you’re they never called me over. But I know people that they do. It’s like, what if I just like everybody? Like everyone makes out with people like the girls talking about the other girl.

Olga

They do the same thing. So I was like, what if I just, like, take the taboo out of it in a way? Does that make sense? And then it was just funny to I mean, people liked it. I didn’t know it was something, but I was like, oh, it’s I guess they’re laughing. And then so that was like shocking.

Olga

Also, posting it online was very hard for me because in the show it like disappears online. It’s like yeah. But then so so that was like a whole because you guys could about like how do I stay true to myself. So like maybe with that I’d go I’d go against what I would like, what I was raised raised with, but with other things I’d say just, I don’t know.

Olga

I would never talk bad about Jews for a laugh, you know what I’m saying?

Noam

That’s. So you’re willing to go raunchy for the laugh, but you’re not willing to hate on Jews for a laugh?

Olga

Never.

Mijal

Right.

Olga

And that’s, I think, like, what’s good for what I think is more like the right or wrong or. You know what I mean?

Mijal

Yeah. And, you know, I think when I first heard about you was there was like an episode that happened in which you were invited as one of the comedians at City Winery for like a pre Passover.

Olga

Thing with Mamdani?.

Mijal

And Mamdani, who was an anti. Who’s an anti-Zionist mayor was there. And I think what I’m just going to what you’re saying right now, I won’t make fun of Jews for that, for a laugh. And I think you, if I understood you, write you a little bit made fun of him.

Olga

Yeah, right.

Mijal

What was your. Because you’re a Zionist, you identify as someone who’s Zionist and you’re hearing this.

Noam

Like.

Olga

I don’t, I don’t know, I might I’m okay. So this is what.

Mijal

I thought. That’s what you told us.

Noam

No, no, no.

Olga

I think, by the way, I really I discovered something just I think that people don’t even like the definition. Like when they say genocide. This generation, they don’t know the definition of words. You know what I mean? So, like when they hear Zionists, they think it’s like, oh, they want to like people. They call them. They say, I want to kill babies.

Olga

I’m not. First of all, I can’t even wake up for 1030. Podcast. I’m not here killing babies. Like I’m just. You know what I mean? I’m not, but they don’t know. So do I believe Israel should defend itself and has the right to exist? Yes.

Noam

Is that your.

Mijal

Supposed to my. It’s like no, I’m wanted. No no no. So so tell us about that appearance.

Noam

I want to stay on this for a second. So you’re saying you identify as a Zionist? No, you don’t.

Olga

Say that.

Noam

Don’t say that.

Olga

I mean, yes, but I don’t want I.

Noam

Like, don’t say things that.

Olga

Meaning to you to like, say.

Noam

I’m saying to me. Meaning you can’t say you identify as a Zionist because I.

Olga

Know already people know. I mean, I’ve done events for Israel, but I’m just saying it’s not like in this like world that like if, like I did a show the other day and the guys, like, you’re Jewish, like, screened in the I was.

Mijal

Like in the show.

Olga

Yeah. And he goes, as long as you’re not one of the bad buttons. I’m like, what’s a bad one? He’s like a Zionist and that. But then I was like, why? Why is that bad? Whatever. And then he’s like, because they think they’re better than everybody and they don’t have to do follow rules and do that. And I was like, no, I think they just don’t want to die.

Olga

Like I was like, we just don’t want to die. But then I continued my jokes and he like, he loved my stuff. And then I was like, I’m by the way, I am a Zionist.

Noam

So why don’t you wait till the end to say that you are you identify as a.

Olga

Because I wanted him to like, let me laugh and then be like, I like her and then be like, oh shit.

Noam

No, I have to deal with my.

Olga

Dad, I like her.

Olga

But meaning, like, if I go out, whatever. The world’s crazy. Don’t you think.

Noam

The world’s crazy?

Olga

Yeah. If you go out and you’re like, I’m a Zionist, they don’t hear it as what is it says? They hear as like, oh, she wants to kill this. And like their definition of it, it’s not.

Noam

So that’s that’s very hard when language is can’t communicate.

Olga

Like, they don’t I don’t even know what would they call a real genocide? What would they I don’t know,

Mijal

Olga I’m just so curious. Sorry. I just I’m very, very curious about you performing in front of Mamdani and deciding to say the things you said. Yeah, yeah. Bring us.

Olga

To talk about. What did you say? So I just said, well, were you.

Mijal

Nervous differently than usual?

Olga

Yeah, I was nervous. Well, the thing is, is that he asked me the got the owner, and he’s like. And Modi’s doing it. And I was like, all right, Modi’s doing.

Mijal

It right, right. Like, right.

Olga

Like why not? Okay, how bad could it be? And then I thought of it more like an opportunity. Like to say things like, make like jokes. Like the best way to like for me to communicate certain things is like, through humor. So, like, you could get away with saying certain things if it’s funny, right, type of thing. So.

Olga

And then so I was planning on my, the thing that I had to do was the ten plagues. So I obviously was going to do that. But then in the beginning I was like, I’m going to roast him a little bit.

Mijal

And Modi stepped out. Also, Modi.

Olga

Said, I’m not doing it. And then the rabbi who who’s Modi’s friend called me before and was like, oh, Modi dropped out and he’s like, you should drop out. And I was like, I’m not going to drop out. Like, I like I already said, I’m doing it, you know? So I did it and I was like, he left, mamdani

Mijal

He left or he left, left, left, left. Yeah. He left before your.

Olga

I was the template because I was at the end. He left I.

Mijal

Yeah.

Olga

He left a little early.

Noam

That’s not cool.

Olga

Wow. But his whole team was there. So I did like my first joke. I said no, I said I’m a Syrian Jew, so at least I know mamdani likes half of me.

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Mijal

I think that’s pretty good.

Olga

And then I said, he’s I said he’s here. Oh, he was here because he like because he knows everyone a lot. Everyone here like, leans to the left or. Oh, he knows that at a seat or you lean to the left because he’s like left. What else I say, I forgot what other things I said. Oh, oh.

Olga

He calls like an exodus of Jews to move to Florida. Like I.

Mijal

Like, like like, no.

Noam

Let me. I live in South Florida. Yeah.

Olga

Oh, okay. So I, I did things like that, which was fine, I don’t know, what’s the what were you what did you want to know.

Mijal

About it. No, I think no, I think it’s really I think it’s really interesting to have to decide. Do I, you know, do I perform? How do I perform? What do I say? And you said like. Yeah. And like you’re using comedy to say. Yeah.

Olga

I mean, I don’t know, why wouldn’t I mean, why wouldn’t I perform?

Mijal

I’m not judging.

Olga

No, I’m saying.

Mijal

I’m more like, I want it to be there.

Olga

Why would I like I understand. First of all, I felt bad because some people there, they they bought tickets expecting Modi. Right. And then they got mamdani and they think he was going to be there and people.

Mijal

Were right. It was a last minute addition. Yeah, yeah. And no, but there’s something about this world that we have to right now performing public. Right, right.

Olga

But it’s also let’s say he didn’t go. That’s also people would be like and he didn’t go like what what.

Mijal

It’s like a lose lose.

Olga

That I really care about him. But what is the right thing for him to do, would you say.

Mijal

Right.

Olga

I don’t know.

Mijal

Oh I have a lot of forts there. But that’s not a.

Olga

Saying with.

Mijal

Like, stop hating. No, stop being obsessed with israel. That’s it.

Olga

Right. But let’s say he didn’t go to the Seder. What do you think? What do you think? Because they invited him. And every year the mayor goes. So let’s say he didn’t go. What would that be like?

Mijal

Right? No, I understand what you’re saying.

Noam

I would love to say that early, though.

Olga

He did leave early. I don’t know when he left, exactly, by the way, but he did leave and he was there early. But I got there late when they wanted me.

Mijal

Safari declined.

Olga

Right.

Noam

And you.

Olga

Got there and I was.

Noam

Like, so it’s not just our podcast, I.

Olga

Oh, well, no, I got there late on purpose because I didn’t want to be hanging out there. Right. You know what I mean?

Mijal

Right. You know, I found it really interesting. Like like you, you really straddle a bunch of different worlds in an interesting way. I also learned that you are like, you know, you you are observant. You have some relationship with some rabbis. I think you told your producer story about a rabbi who was telling you something recently about being connected.

Mijal

Do you know what I’m talking about?

Olga

Did I talk about with the observant thing that my rabbi there was a my rabbi? This me? I guess my father is rabbi. I don’t know if this is what I was talking about.

Mijal

Is it your rabbi, though?

Olga

He was a rabbi when I was growing up. Like I went to his classes when I was young, like, a lot. And then. And my, you know, my father, you know, loves him. And yeah, he’s like a he has other rabbis, but he’s one of the rabbis. Okay. And he told me that it was weird. He’s like he said something.

Olga

It was really nice. My father’s friend wrote like some book and like, like a Tanakh, not a Tanakh.

Mijal

Something about the Hebrew Bible.

Olga

I don’t even something about it. I don’t know what he wrote I should know about.

Mijal

Oh, this is Ronny Benin. Yes. Okay. All right. Okay.

Olga

So when did that thing.

Noam

She’s talking? She didn’t.

Mijal

Say anything because she just published a new book, interpretation on the Bible. He’s wonderful. But.

Noam

Yeah, I got this book.

Mijal

I’ll get you a copy Noam.

Noam

Thank you.

Olga

So he like he said, I can’t. I was so weird. I wasn’t supposed to be in deal. I happened to be in deal, and my sister’s like, come to the thing. I didn’t even know about it. But then I went. I went last minute. And then they honored my dad, which was they said something nice about him, whatever.

Olga

That was nice. So then after the rabbi at the end of it, he, like, wanted to talk to me and I was like, okay. So I smoked him and he said the nicest thing, which I was shocked. He’s like, he said something about like my like gave me a compliment about doing comedy. And he was saying, how, how would I do is just, you know, he’s very impressed and it’s nice and everything.

Olga

And he’s like, even like, I guess the dirty joke, like basically he knows what I put out there. And he’s like, told me the story about a guy he, he went to. He walked into Red lobster and the rabbi saw him and he’s like, oh, maybe, maybe he just needs to use the bathroom. And then then he goes and he sees him sitting at a table and he’s like, oh, maybe he just wanted to get like, water or like a cup of tea.

Olga

And then he’s like. And then he ordered a lobster. And the rabbi was like, oh my God. And then he’s eating the lobster. And so the rabbi, like, goes up to him. He’s like, oh, I told him, the next I saw you, I saw you going to a lobster. And then I saw you sit and eat the lobster.

Olga

And then the guys like, oh, so this is all under rabbi supervision. And he’s like, I guess. Yes. And then he’s like, that’s what he’s like. So you have I’m supervising what you’re like, meaning he gave me a stamp of approval to like because he’s like, what you do is like very important. And I was like, he’s like, you’re very funny.

Olga

It’s very he’s like, it’s not easy to do that. I guess from where he’s like from where you come from. And I was like, yeah.

Olga

I get whatever he’s like because he said, I’m funny. I was like, no, I get it from my dad. And he goes, no, your dad could never be funny like that. I was like, that was funny to me, but he was just me.

Mijal

I love that story.

Olga

That just makes me. It was very nice.

Mijal

I think it’s powerful.

Olga

That.

Mijal

I think it’s, I don’t know, I think like we all have different stories. Sometimes when you veer off the script, you feel like you had to leave a lot of people behind or change too much. And when you have somebody from that world kind of saying, like, I still love you, I still see you, I found that really important for me.

Olga

I think it’s like it nice that I think if you do like. Yeah. Because everyone’s kind of different. So like, like, like a lot of people who do leave, like they get like I don’t they either leave everything behind and it’s like, not everything. It doesn’t have to be like that, right? You know what I mean?

Mijal

So I know a lot of your comedies about relationships. We want to. Would it be okay if we ask you some questions as if, like, you’re like a columnist giving relationship advice. Okay. Yeah. Okay. So there’ll be like, quickfire kind of questions. You start.

Noam

Yeah. Okay, fine. Here we go. Dear Olga, where’s your name from, by the way?

Olga

My grandma. Come on. No.

Mijal

I’m Syrian.

Noam

With a Syrian name.

Olga

I guess. I know she pronounces it Olga.

Noam

Oh, Olga. Yeah. Here I go. I love my boyfriend, but his mom is way too involved in our relationship. She’s constantly asking us when we’re getting married and having kids and having kids. What do I do?

Olga

Well.

Olga

It depends how long they’re going out for, right? Because if it’s like a year. Those are good questions. Like when are you getting married? Right. No. And it depends how old.

Noam

I’m getting.

Olga

So I don’t know, like I would ignore it. It’s not that if he’s a perfect guy and you like him and the mom’s annoying. Whatever.

Mijal

All right, let me ask another question about a perfect guy. They don’t exist, by the way. Just kidding. They’re all gone. My boyfriend is a ten, but he loves Jewish voice for peace. I’m a Zionist. What do I do?

Olga

That’s not a ten.

Mijal

That’s not okay.

Olga

Okay, I would not. I asked my dad. I was like, would you rather me bring home a non-Jew who’s like, loves Israel and such a and, you know, loves Jews or someone who, who’s Jewish and hates Israel. And he’s like, don’t ask me such questions.

Mijal

I wouldn’t mature that.

Noam

All right, my turn, my friend. All right. Dear Olga, I’m a very observant Jew. My my girlfriend. Not so much. Is the relationship doomed, or can we meet in the middle?

Olga

I think it’s good. I think it’s important to meet in the middle.

Noam

My mom says hot and cold makes lukewarm.

Olga

Yeah. That’s good that you and your mom, my dad and your mom would get along.

Noam

My mom’s married.

Olga

My dad, too. But, you know, I just said, get along.

Mijal

You get along. No.

Olga

That’s true.

Noam

Friends.

Olga

Yeah.

Noam

Took a sip of her a drink.

Olga

Sometimes it’s like.

Mijal

All right. Dear Olga. My partner spends hours and hours playing video games. How do I get him off the couch?

Olga

Well, are they married?

Mijal

Sure.

Noam

I never thought that censor.

Olga

Yeah, I guess you have to, I guess. Yeah, I don’t know, I would, I would, like, manipulate him to hang out with me. Okay. Like, be fun and let them not want to play the game. But also. Yeah. It depends. I did date one time. This guy was a gamer. That’s what they call themselves. And that is just annoying, like I.

Mijal

So you’re like, don’t date someone who’s.

Olga

They’re obsessed, right? I thought it was like a stage, but then it wasn’t.

Noam

So we used to just called people that were gamers, guys who played video games.

Mijal

Now this is like really intense.

Noam

Like, it’s like they gave a name.

Mijal

To it. No, no. You have guys who play video games, then you have gamers. Yeah.

Olga

They’re obsessed. Right. Like beyond.

Noam

Well, you dated.

Mijal

So you’re like, don’t date.

Olga

111. Like, I didn’t shower all week. Oh, my new game came out. He’s like, I’m just gonna let you know you’re not going to hear from me. I’ve been waiting for this. I thought he’s like, kidding. Like I’m like, what? And then I was like, this can’t be true.

Noam

Not a ten.

Olga

It was true. I mean, that’s a problem. Yeah. But also, I mean, you would hope that eventually life. I don’t know, they they grow up and they don’t want to play the game anymore. I don’t.

Mijal

Know.

Olga

I don’t know because that’s like a that’s like you’re dating a boy. No. Or to men do that. I don’t think men sit there and play games. Do that.

Mijal

I like this.

Olga

I don’t.

Noam

I don’t speak for every man. That sounds like, like I don’t think that that’s a, but I don’t think it’s a healthy way to live life, to spend all your days playing video games. Is that judgmental? Maybe.

Mijal

But I think we’re cool being judgmental.

Noam

On that. I think you should do other things besides play video games.

Mijal

Yeah.

Olga

I don’t judge.

Noam

But you just don’t.

Olga

You’re like, no, I just don’t. Yeah, it’s not like if they’re going to spend weekends. It depends. I guess you have to make a schedule. Be like, look, you could play your games, but sometimes. Could we hang out?

Mijal

Oh, that’s that’s Olga. Relationship advice. Olga, if if any of our listeners watchers want to follow you. How should they follow you?

Olga

My, I guess I have Instagram, it’s all old. And then Namer enemy are on Instagram.

Mijal

And they can get tickets to your shows there. See about it. Things like that.

Olga

Soon.

Mijal

Soon?

Olga

Yes. There should be like soon it will be set up that they’ll be tickets to shows, so I think. Be good. Thank you.

Mijal

Thanks so much for.

Olga

Joining us.

Noam

Writing your own script.

Olga

Script? Yes. Oh yes. Yes. I also have to write an actual script. But yes, I will write my own script.

Noam

Okay, great.

Olga

Thank you. Thank you so much. Thanks for having me.

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